I know there are those out there that would disagree and there are those out there that have lifestyles that this does not apply to (poly-amorous relationship types). So let’s just assume that I’m not attempting to force my belief on anyone, just simply putting it out there for discussion.
The more I see of today’s culture and behavior towards committed relationships the more disgusted I become. Marriages are not forever and vows are taken lightly. The line for cheating is moved further back in the sand with every passing decade. Ladies and gentlemen, if you’re in a committed relationship, that is, you’re in it for the long haul… Flirting with others is NOT okay. Some say it’s healthy but you know what? There is a reason that flirting with your now significant other lead to them being your significant other… It is a playful expression of your affection and desire for that person, if you are flirting with another, I personally (the traditionalist that I am) believe it to be cheating. I’m damn lucky to have found a man that believes in the same values that I do in this day and age with how many people just accept flirting to be something to do no matter what.
First, let’s take a look at what flirting with someone implicates— You find them attractive, okay, that’s all well and fine but flirting is acting on it and if you flirt with others whilst in a committed relationship, wouldn’t that be showing that you also have desire or unrequited intentions with the person you are flirting with? However meager or diluted?
Second, jealousy maybe a healthy emotion but it is also a very destructive one in large doses. Jealousy of that magnitude should not be invited in a relationship you expect to last for as long as you both shall live. No matter what someone says— if your significant other sees you flirting with others or finds out about it, it will hurt them, even if they’ve expressed that it doesn’t bother them. They’re human, and like any other human, if they love you, they will feel slighted when you show that they are not your one and only. Yes, that’s how long term relationships work, you become each others one and only. The chemical bonding that goes on within the first stages of love are intense, yes… All consuming even… But to last beyond that it takes understanding, patience and most of all COMMITMENT. You know what doesn’t show commitment? Flirting with others.
All that being said, I’d like to get another point out there… Emotional affairs are still affairs. No matter how you slice it, you’re experiencing something that is intended for only your significant other and here you are, dabbling in it with another. While nothing physical may happen and so on… You’ve done something to get to this point. You’re either not happy in your own relationship or you’ve allowed flirtatious acts to become something more.
I know there are many that would disagree with me but I’m well read on the psychology behind love, the chemicals that are involved and the psychological impact that cheating has on the cheater and the victim.
we were taking our math test and i turned around and
can we just talk about not only whatever is all over that girl’s face, but the guy charging his phone in the back and the kid on the right who looks like he’s in immense pain
this picture is like the perfect description of school tho
is no one going to mention the girl knitting a fucking scarf in the back
Schools these days damn
This is wonderful and discouraging all at the same time.